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Mine are grown, now, but having been the mom of four preschoolers at once. Again, thank you! The most important job we will ever have is being a mom! Your kids need you more than your boss. We can show you how! I dont believe parents with older children say it to make you feel bad.
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We were never meant to be. Three children 3kuds six. All fostered and then adopted. Too tired to write, but just wanted to thank you. I read this post every couple of days just to encourage myself. From parents everywhere…thank you. As the parent of teenager AND toddlers especially my toddlers! I can also relate to how quickly time passes and how important it is to treasure the moments.
Because, even the bad ones are precious eventually. It is motivated by the realization that as exhausting and unpleasant the early years of parenting can be, they really are very precious.
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We should stop telling everyone that our marriage is great, our kids are amazing and perfect, and life is wonderful all the time. It is nice to hear someone be real. Give yourself a break. Not always true on this, sad to say! Sometimes, people are just evil or make very very poor choices. You cannot judge parents by whether their kids are in jail! Look at the Boston Bombings.
Two suspects in their twenties… Parents and siblings could be the sweetest people on earth who taught their children how to be responsible growing up, have morals, believe in themselves, share god etc…. Thank you for this reminder. I know it in my head, but it makes my heart feel better to hear it from someone else too.
I need that. My husband and I also endured years of infertility, and have now found ourselves with four boys: Some days — many days — are tough. I am grateful every day to have them, but like you said, I am a person and I have limits. When people tell you to enjoy your children while they are young, please accept that admonition in the spirit it is given.
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